Getting Your Inner Spark Back: 5 Tips to Loving Yourself Again
We are born with an instinctual sense of self-worth and knowing that we are infinitely lovable. As babies and toddlers we demand attention, comfort and affection. We want to be held and nurtured, and ask for the things we desire without apology or self-doubt. When we’re very young, we don't question whether or not we are "enough." We know innately that we are deserving of goodness.
But somewhere along the way, something changes…
As we grow, we become shaped by our peers, societal norms, cultural expectations, media messages, physical and hormonal changes—and suddenly our confidence begins to erode as we question if we are "good enough", "smart enough", "attractive enough"...
The good news is that self-love isn’t lost—it can be learned, unlearned, and relearned over time. With intention and practice, it’s absolutely possible to reconnect with your sense of worth that once came so naturally. Here are a few ideas to help you begin falling in love with yourself again.
Make Time for Yourself
Little kids spend a lot of alone time playing. And during this alone time, they are really connected to their inner world. The “us” in this inner world is the real us, not the us in the business suit or rush-hour traffic or grocery store line. Spend quality time just with you so you can reconnect to the “you” you’ve forgotten.
Say “No” More Often
When we constantly put others’ needs before our own, we tell our subconscious mind over and over that we do not matter. If you are a people pleaser who struggles to set boundaries, get into the habit of saying "no" to others and "yes" to yourself more often.
Do What You Love
Maybe when you were young you wanted to be a painter or singer or photographer, but an adult “talked some sense into you.” Well there is no reason you can’t explore these passions as a hobby now. Doing what you love is one of the best ways to love yourself more.
Speak Your Truth
When you constantly tell other people what they want to hear instead of telling the truth, you silence yourself. This, in turn, kicks your self-worth to the curb. Don’t be afraid to be authentic and truthful. You may sometimes have to find graceful and tactful ways to share your truth with others, but it’s the best way to love yourself.
Seek Help
When our self-worth is low or non-existent, attempting to love ourselves can feel impossible. If you suffer from self-esteem issues, speaking with a therapist can help you recognize where these issues came from and how to work through them to truly love yourself.
Are you Ready to Make Yourself a Priority Again?
You don't have to try to reclaim your self-worth on your own. See how therapy can help you find your inner spark again. Contact us to schedule an appointment today.